A Call to Women to Uplift & Not Silence One Another

Recently, God handed me a gentle but powerful lesson. I shared some exciting news with a woman I have known and respected for more than twenty years. I truly believed she would be proud. I expected a smile, a spark of celebration, or at least a warm acknowledgment. Instead, she brushed it aside and changed the subject without a single word of support.

For a moment, I sat in silence and felt the weight of it. Then I understood. I simply had her wrong. We sometimes think we know who will rejoice with us, but we discover that familiarity does not always equal support. The spirit of familiarity is running rampant, causing people to overlook what God is doing in others simply because they think they already know who we are or who we should be.

This woman is much older than me, and that made the moment sting in a deeper place. Scripture teaches us that older women have a sacred responsibility to guide, support, and teach younger women.

Titus 2:3-5 says, “The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, teachers of good things. That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

This call is not only spiritual, it is relational. God designed women to lift each other, not silence each other. We must do better.

I am not angry, upset, nor am I bitter. It was a lesson. Sometimes we simply have people wrong, and God reveals the truth so we can adjust without losing peace. We cannot force support.

We cannot force celebration.

We cannot force people to see us as we are becoming, rather than how they met us.

Through this, I made a quiet promise.

I will be a safe space for younger women. I will celebrate their growth, their success, their dreams, and their moments that deserve applause. I will stand in the gap where others once fell short for me.

Women need women who clap with sincerity. Women need mentors who listen without jealousy or judgment. Women need mothers, aunties, sisters, and leaders who do not dismiss their joy, but multiply it.

Today’s reflection is clear.

Everyone who smiles is not for you. Everyone you admire may not admire you back. Yet God still sends reminders that the right people exist, and He calls us to be one of them. I received my lesson. I am grateful for it. I am growing from it. I am moving forward with love, clarity, and truth.

Women must do better. I choose to start with me.